💔➡️💍 From Heartbreak to Holy Union
One Sistaza’s Journey Through Grief, Healing, and God-Orchestrated Love
I used to believe heartbreak had the final word.
After five years in a relationship that I thought would lead to marriage, it all
unraveled. No betrayal. No drama. Just silence where there used to be laughter,
and distance where there used to be dreams. The ending that doesn’t come
with closure, only questions.
I blamed myself. Maybe I wasn’t enough. Maybe I was too much. For months, I
tried to patch the ache with distractions, work, friends, even ministry. I smiled in
public, but behind closed doors, I begged God to take the sting away.
But He didn’t. Not at first.
Instead, God sat with me in the pain.
Not rushing me to “get over it,” but
gently walking me through it. I learned
how to grieve with grace. I journaled. I
went to therapy. I took long walks. I
unlearned the lie that I had to shrink to
be chosen.
I stopped praying for “the one” and
started praying for wholeness.
And then, one evening at a friend’s
community dinner, I met Jordan.
Not the fireworks kind of moment. Just
two people passing salad and sharing
stories. We became friends first. Then
prayer partners. Then one night,
without fanfare, he told me, “I’ve been
asking God if I’m worthy of loving you.”
Not if I loved him. But if he was worthy
of the assignment of loving me. That
was the moment my knees buckled, not
from romance—but from recognition.
Holy love doesn’t rescue. It reflects.
It reflects God’s goodness to us when
we’ve forgotten it for ourselves. Jordan
didn’t complete me. He confirmed what
I’d come to know: that love isn’t the
prize, it’s the posture. one of grace,
growth, and God-first foundation.
We got married last June. No grand
cathedral. Just our family, a backyard,
and a covenant built on healing,
honesty, and faith.
I share this not because my story is
perfect, but because it serves as proof.
Proof that God writes redemption in
real time, and heartbreak doesn’t have
the final word.
Healing does.
Wholeness does.
Holy union does.
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